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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Blessed w/boys

Well, he's here, but I'm not sure how much time I'll have to write about the journey, as I expect him to want to nurse anytime now. The camera isn't close, so you'll have to wait for pictures (unless you are Kevin's or my mom's friend on Facebook)!

Micah Alexander Harkins joined us at 7:04 a.m. on Sunday June 14, 2009. He was 8lbs 10oz and 20 1/4 inches long. He reminds us a lot of Kyle as a newborn in looks, except that he has darker coloring, from his hair to his eyes to his olive skin.

After my Friday appointment, I started evening primrose oil three times a day. Saturday June 13th I lost my mucous plug over the course of the day and had random contractions similar to those I'd been experiencing for the last two weeks. Kevin ended up going in to work that evening to finish up his dissertation. I had my mom time my contractions from 10 - 11 p.m. that night, prior to going to bed, but there was nothing consistent about them. I took my unisom plus B6 and went to bed with no real expectation of having a baby in the next 24 hours.

At 12:30 a.m. on Sunday June 14th, I was woken up by a contraction. I got up and started timing. Kevin still wasn't home from school at this time (he had been working late for the past two weeks to get his paper finished up before Micah arrived). At 1:00 a.m., I called Kevin and told him I was having consistent contractions, about 5-7 minutes apart; that he should finish up what he was doing and come home. He told me he was just printing out a last draft to give to his boss and would be home soon. I asked him to stop by CircleK and get a soda, so I could eat the ice after he finished drinking the soda. After we hung up, I had the horrible thought that he would get car jacked or something stopping at the CircleK near campus and I prayed hard until he came walking through the door, lol.

I had been laboring in our bedroom this whole time. After Kevin got home, I asked him for the exercise ball, and we timed contractions until 1:30 a.m.. At this time, Kevin called the birth center because my contractions had been about 5 minutes apart for an hour and lasting about a minute each. The midwife on call, Nichole, told us to go ahead and come on in. Kevin packed up the car and we drove over. I remember having one contraction in the car. This was similar to Kyle's labor, where my contractions seemed to stall on the car ride over to the birth center. We arrived at the same time as the midwife.

Nichole opened up the center and we were set up in the same room that we had Kyle in! She checked me and I was 5 cm, 90% effaced, -1 station. She assured me that with second babies, they often didn't drop until late in labor and joked we might have this baby by 7 a.m.! She knew I wanted to have a water birth and asked if I'd like her to get the tub ready; I declined and said I wanted to be 7 centimeters before I got in the tub. I started laboring on the birthing ball (similar to my exercise ball at home), but things seemed to be kind of stalled (to me) and contractions erratic, as opposed to consistent. We decided to go walk around the birth center, but I didn't have more than a couple contractions while we did that either. After returning to the room, I layed down and had a very painful contraction. This was similar to when I was in labor with Kyle: laying down was the most painful position ever. I decided to get in the shower and labor in there for a bit. I wasn't in there long and had a good three contractions that I can remember. After getting out, I wanted to be checked again and was close to 7 cm, but not quite there, so I labored on the ball again.

After a few contractions on the ball, I asked Nichole to fill the tub. Kevin fell asleep as I was getting in the tub; poor guy had been up forever. Nichole, and our nurse Beth, kept me company and rotated cold washcloths on my forehead and chest to keep me comfortable. I think it was about 4 a.m. when I got in to the tub. I told the midwife and nurse that I would need to wake Kevin around 7 a.m. to wake my mom up because my morning alarm wouldn't be on to let Kyle know it was time to wake up. Around 6 a.m. the contractions became more intense and I could actually feel Micah descending, which I don't remember experiencing with Kyle's birth. We woke Kevin up and Nichole asked the nurse to get the birth kit ready. I remember asking her if she thought I'd be having my baby soon, but don't remember her reply. She did ask me if I was pushing after the next contraction. I told her I didn't know, that I didn't remember what pushing felt like because I'd had to push Kyle out so fast. She never did check me again.

The contractions were coming faster and I was having a hard time getting comfortable in the tub. I remember holding on to Kevin's hand and pulling hard during these last contractions. All of a suddent I felt a pop! and knew my water had broke. This was such a relief not to have them artifically rupture my membranes like they did with Kyle. Regretfully, I had to get out of the tub because there was meconium in my water; this meant no tub birth for me. The midwife and nurse would need to suction Micah right away when he was born so he didn't aspirate meconium.

I was helped out of the tub and squatted down for a couple contractions, until my feet fell asleep, lol. The nurse brought over a birthing stool and that was a lot more comfortable. I remember gasping and Nichole telling me not to be afraid of the pain and pressure, that it was normal. The next couple contractions I tried to work with the pressure and was hugely relieved when I delivered his head, then had to wait for another contraction to deliver the rest of him! The morning alarm on my phone went off, it was now 7:05.

Micah was immediately placed in my lap; he was covered in meconium, which we all wiped off. He didn't cry right away, but eventually let out some good wails. The midwife waited for the cord to stop pulsing (one of my requests) before having Kevin cut it. I delivered the placenta and everything looked great! I was so relieved to be holding our baby boy in my arms and I couldn't believe it was only 7 a.m.!

I was in active labor from 12:30 a.m. to 7:04 a.m. on the morning of Sunday June 14th, 2009. I couldn't have asked for a better labor and delivery. I thought Kyle's birth had been ideal, and it was. However, Micah's birth healed any parts of my heart that felt like Kyle's birth could have been better. We are so blessed to be able to have uncomplicated births, even if the pregnancies throw us for a loop.

My mom arrived with Kyle a little after 8 a.m. and we had a sweet time introducing the boys and watching Kyle check out his little brother. Kyle is very affectionate with Micah, but has still struggled with all the changes a new sibling brings. It's been a different week, adjusting to being a family of four, but I wouldn't have it any other way!




Micah is one week old today. He is a completely different baby from our Kyle. We are blessed by his mellow personality, and he's quite the sleeper. We've had no problems with nursing. Here's to being on my own with the boys tomorrow!

Friday, June 12, 2009

Kyle has been really, really...

...into taking digital pictures lately. He can fill up our camera in a matter of minutes!

Micah, as taken by Kyle this afternoon. Let the baby weight guessing games begin!


Kyle, taken by me last week, with his short summer hair.

39 and almost 1/2 weeks

Well, had another appt. today. I am officially 39 wks 2 days. Micah is still head down and has a strong heartbeat. I was offered the option of an internal exam w/membrane sweeping, but declined. I was then told that I would be having an internal exam come next Friday if I was still pregnant, ugh.

Kevin has been way busy since finding out he will be defending on June 26th. He's shooting for around 10 a.m. in the morning for those of you who will be attending. The public portion lasts about an hour, then he will be in with his advisors for about 3 more hours, give or take an hour. After he's done, we'll either meet at the house or a restaurant to celebrate with him! This is the equivalent of his graduation and graduation party.

Now, for those of you who are planning on trekking down to Tucson after Micah is born, I have a request: Please stay home if you are sick, have been sick in the last week, have been exposed to sickness in the past week at work/school/etc..., or even feel a tickle in your throat. Please be symptom free for 24 hours before you come if you are getting over being sick. I will ask you to leave if you show up to see us sniffling and hacking.

I know this sounds crazy, and it's not actually Micah I'm worried about. We have so much going on in the next 30 days, that if any of the rest of us gets sick, it's going to make it that much more stressful and overwhelming. We are having a baby, flying Kevin to Nashville to find us a place to live, Kevin's defending, then we pack, and drive to Nashville to stay for good. So please, use your best judgement when coming to visit after Micah is born. He will still be very teeny tiny and newbornish for a good 10-14 days after he's born, so don't worry, you will not miss that itty bitty baby stage.

In other news, we will be in Phoenix very soon after Micah is born, so if you are unable to come see him here, it's possible you could meet him there. The boys and I will be staying with my mom while Kevin is in Nashville securing a place for us to live.

We will not in any way, shape, or form be offended if you decide not to immediately drive to Tucson the moment you find out Micah has arrived. In fact, you'll probably get to spend more time with the boys and us if the visits are spread out a bit. Which brings me to another point, please remember Kyle. I don't mean bring him a present, I mean, remember that he is here too and this is going to be a big deal for him. Expect to read books with him, play trucks, a board game, trains, pillow fight, etc...and generally spend some time giving him some extra attention also, in addition to meeting his new brother.

We will probably be updating twitter and/or facebook with "in labor" updates. I will advise you not to come shooting down to Tucson once you find out we are heading to the birth center. I was in labor for a total of 16 hours with Kyle, 7 of those were spent at the birth center. You may be sitting in the waiting room a really, really long time. Plus, I have to get cleaned up, nurse the little guy, and introduce him to Kyle before you'll be invited in.

Ok, I'm done now. Thank you for listening and respecting my boundaries with all of this.

Wednesday, June 03, 2009

38 weeks

Well, what can I say? Feeling very pregnant. I am so thankful my mom arrived today, as my daily patience in parenting is waning. Kyle's parks and rec classes started up this week, which has made us busier and boy do I feel it! Our next appointment is Friday morning. About the only comfortable seat in the house is on my exercise ball. Kyle likes to hop up on it while I'm sitting and bounce or jump off of it on to a nearby couch. This is not one of my current favorite activities. We haven't been to the pool in a week or so because by the time the pool opens for public swim, I am pretty much done for the day, lol. All of the free kid activities are a lot busier now that school is out, but traffic is much lighter now that the U of A students have vacated the city.

We have changed our move date to mid-July; probably around the 15th. Kevin is still working on getting all his advisor schedules to work for a June 26th or July 7th defense date. We've been talking to a buyer's agent in Nashville about possibly buying a house and scoping out rentals best we can online. It looks like Kevin will most likely take a short trip back to Nashville to confirm housing for us, after Micah arrives.

That's all the news I can remember with this hormone laden brain of mine. I'll keep you posted on any new developments!